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Putting it All Together: Developing a Rule of Life

5/26/2020

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Today I can’t help but recall the promise Isaiah issues on the Lord’s behalf:
   On this mountain the Lord of hosts will make for all peoples
   a feast of rich food, a feast of well-matured wines,
   of rich food filled with marrow, of well-matured wines strained clear.
 
What a feast Soul Feast has been! Perhaps Thompson should edit her chapter 9 (on hospitality) to include the particular form of hospitality that is inviting disciples to a Soul Feast. Thompson has been our gracious host for these last nine weeks.
 
Thompson invited us to a well-set table and she has offered us all kinds of delectable treats at her table: Study, Prayer, Worship, Sabbath, Fast, Examination and Hospitality. In her presentation she has made nourishing food enticing – everything’s been tasty, and so good for us, too. A Soul Feast, indeed! It’s been the kind of feast that seems to double down on God’s promise of the ultimate feast that is God’s kingdom come.
 
>Pause to consider: Think back over the seven practices we’ve explored these last few weeks. Which ones were new for you? Which ones did you find tantalizing? Which ones made you want to scrunch up your nose and refuse?
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Amaryllis. I think this might be "Apple Blossom"? Anyone know for sure?
This last chapter is an invitation to incorporate some of these Soul Feast practices as daily bread.
 
Looking back over these last nine weeks I can say that I’ve rediscovered a couple of practices that nourish me. Most of all, I have rediscovered my garden. There has been a lot of hard work out there and there’s still a lot of hard work to do, but I’ve found that my garden labor has created time and space for prayer and reflection even as it has connected me to God’s creation.
 
Even the gardening process has been a metaphor for spiritual work. I’ve cleared out weeds, turned over soil, pruned/moved/tended existing plants and I’ve added some newcomers to my garden. Gardening has also let me do spiritual work that parallels those garden tasks.
 
My interior “weeds” have been subject to confession and pardon (even if they may well grow back again!). I’ve turned over texts, from the Bible, to commentaries, to books, to Thompson’s chapters. There’s been time to tend to prayer concerns from the personal to the global. And as I was out in the garden yesterday, I kept asking myself if it’s time to add another intentional spiritual practice to my routine. (Honestly, I might just keep up the gardening!)
 
Thompson suggests three questions for discerning whether and which spiritual practice(s) to adopt: 1) Practice-wise, what am I deeply attracted to or repelled by, and why? 2) Where do I feel God calling me to balance or stretch my spirit? 3) What practices best fit my circumstances or season of life? Her hope is to encourage us toward a commitment, but not a commitment just for the sake of having made one, but that we might find ourselves drawn “into greater intimacy with the Lover of [our] soul[s].” (p. 161)
 
>Pause to consider: A quote in the margin of page 161 says “Abba Poemen said about Abba Pior that every day he made a fresh beginning.” What Soul Feast of a fresh beginning might you make?
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If I had smellavision I'd send you the scent of the Jasmine that's blooming. Better than the perfume, though, was this - is it misshapen or perfectly shaped? - leaf from the Jasmine vine.
All through this blogging experiment I’ve wondered why I’ve been including photos from my garden. I’ve wrestled with whether I was somehow trying to show off the fruits of my garden labor or whether I was simply trying to engage readers by way of the photos. Spinning back through each week’s photos, though, I realize that the garden has been the place where my own Soul Feast has been happening. I’m thinking that a weekly appointment with my garden might be the fresh beginning I need to make.
 
I nearly missed the Amaryllis that’s in the above photograph. Siberian Iris have grown up around the place where the Amaryllis was planted years ago and I don’t know that I’ve ever seen the bulb bloom. This year there were two flower stalks, each with two flowers! I was overwhelmed when I discovered them Sunday afternoon.
 
Wondering what an Amaryllis might mean, I did a bit of googling. The Breks bulb store shares the myth of Amaryllis, who is persistent and patient in pursuing the object of her deep love. After plenty of effort, Amaryllis found her love reflected back from her beloved. Pretty wild connection to this Soul Feast journey, huh?! Breks further says “Amaryllis is the living symbol of love, determination and ethereal beauty, and an ideal gift for those you love and care for.“ (https://www.brecks.com/blog/amaryllis-symbology) If only I could beam an Amaryllis onto the feast tables of all who’ve been making this journey with me!

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I've been saving 'Trinity' blossoms to share without realizing that I'll be taking a blog break starting next week. Fascinating how many threes are in the garden.
Brandon will pick up the NRPC blog for a while beginning next week. I’ll be interested to see in what direction he takes the project. Meanwhile, I’ll sort out a plan for when he passes the baton back to me.
 
Until next time,
Peace
Lisa!
 
Thompson, Marjorie, Soul Feast: An Invitation to the Christian Spiritual Life (New Rev edition). Westminster John Knox Press, 2014.
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​Entertaining Angels Unawares: The Spirit of Hospitality

5/19/2020

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One sentence on page 2 of Thompson’s chapter 9 stopped me in my tracks.
 
The entire time I’ve been doing this blog project based on Thompson’s Soul Feast, I’ve been amazed at the ways the particular practices have intersected with the peculiarities of life in the time of coronavirus. Sabbath, Worship and Fasting have been especially poignant in this time when usual routines are so thoroughly upended.
 
So, I’ve been wondering what this Hospitality chapter would say and how it might speak to this time when hospitality – at least hospitality as we commonly understand it – is verboten.
 
>Pause to consider: Regarding “hospitality as we commonly understand it,” Thompson invites us to consider these questions: What are your most vivid memories of receiving hospitality? Of offering it?
 
The sentence that stopped me in my tracks occurs in Thompson’s section on “Hospitality in Jewish and Christian Tradition.” In particular, she writes that “hospitality to strangers was a matter of mutual survival. It was a kind of social covenant, an implied commitment to transcend human differences in order to meet common human needs.” (p. 132)
 
This is exactly the understanding of hospitality that I’ve been considering as I wondered to myself about hospitality in the time of coronavirus.
 
For the first sixty days or so of this massive interruption of life as we knew it, hospitality seemed to blossom. Seems counterintuitive, doesn’t it? We shut down human-to-human contact, closed down schools/businesses/restaurants/churches/offices and locked down our homes. At the same time, though, we opened ourselves to what was happening next door.
 
Our neighborhood children wrote chalk notes to folks on our street and delivered painted stones to many a stoop. When we’d see Fritz on the way to the mailbox, we’d ask whether he and Helen – the senior-most couple on our street – needed anything from the grocery store. And several families nearby are gathering regularly for lawn chair visits (at a distance, of course). I even think I experienced an uptick in waves and smiles between drivers and pedestrians and between grocery shoppers and check-stand clerks. I suppose isolation at home brought out our friendliness and concern on those precious few occasions when we ventured out.
 
>Pause to consider: What new sorts of hospitality have you observed during stay-at-home orders? What forms of hospitality have you been missing? 

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It's rhododendron week at our house. Here's the one in the back yard.
Then, I guess, we got tired of the pattern of super-hospitality. Or more frustrated about the isolation. Or less convinced that covid-19 is a concern. Or cynical that the common good was too detrimental to our personal freedoms.
 
I read a fascinating newspaper article that wonders whether face masks might be “the new face of restaurant hospitality.” As restaurants begin to re-open some diners find that the masks (and other PPE) are a welcome sign of the restaurant’s concern for their guests. Other restaurateurs and diners believe the dining experience should be a bit of an escape from an anxious world, so protective items are optional or absent in some places. And so the divide begins. I suppose one person’s hospitality can be another’s hostility, huh?
 
>Pause and consider: So, what is hospitality, really?
 
I expect that, when I asked you to consider your most vivid recollections of hospitality, some visions of extravagant events crossed your mind (over-the-top parties and the like). But I bet your mind kept casting about until you landed on the most profound welcome you’ve ever experienced.
 
Thompson describes a late night arrival, sans reservation but with bucketing rain, at a Scottish B-and-B. At first the owners look at Thompson and company and shake their heads. Then they look at each other, step away from the front door for a brief conversation and return to say, “Come on in!” It was a warm (and dry) welcome at just the right time. But it gets better. Next morning, after a full Scottish breakfast, the guests realized that the owners had relinquished their own bed so their late night visitors could have a pillow for the night. Wow!
 
Hospitality – real hospitality – meets you at your most needful and gladly sacrifices self for your benefit. Hospitality – real hospitality – is an enactment of grace, which is why we that those who practice the warmest and widest hospitality are gracious hosts.
 
>Pause and consider: How are the life/ministry/death/resurrection of Jesus God’s supreme enactment of grace, meeting us at our most needful with a sacrifice of self for our benefit?
 
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And this one's out front.
From that couple on their front stoop in Scotland, to God incarnate faced with a rebellious humanity, hospitality means finding a way to “Yes” for the benefit of someone else.
 
As covid-19 continues to shape our lives, I wonder how we might be more gracious – a.k.a., hospitable – with one another? I asked a friend to answer that question and here’s what I heard: “We need to do more than offer fake politeness or the kind of hospitality you get at a fancy party. Hospitality in the time of covid is about being considerate of others’ needs, positions, feelings.”
 
In the mask or no mask debate (and the myriad of related binary questions) I expect hospitality means dropping the eye rolls, the heavy sighs and outright criticism, and finding a way to cross the divide with something that sounds like “Yes.” As Thompson stated it, this kind of hospitality to our strange neighbors is an act of “mutual survival, …a kind of social covenant, an implied commitment to transcend human differences in order to meet common human needs.” May God grant us the grace to be gracious hosts each to the other.
 
PictureStop by the outdoor worship space and take what you need to help you in your practice of hospitality.
​Until next time,
Peace!
Lisa
 
Thompson, Marjorie, Soul Feast: An Invitation to the Christian Spiritual Life (New Rev edition). Westminster John Knox Press, 2014.

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Companions on the Journey: The Gift of Spiritual Direction

5/12/2020

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Most of the people who have been spiritual mentors to me don’t even know that I would regard them in that way.

Ben Campbell Johnson was Professor of Evangelism and Spiritual Direction at Columbia Theological Seminary when I was living in Atlanta in the early ‘90s (prior to my even knowing seminary was a thing!). Though now I’d say that the Spirit was drawing me back to church, then I would have said that events in my life were driving me back to church.

I was finding it hard to ‘like’ any churches I visited. I wanted the kind of experience I had known in my home church and, well, there's no place like home! Frustrated with my ‘failed’ attempts at finding a church, I called the pastor at my home church. “How do I find a church that will feel like home?” I asked. Bob (who’d later become an even more important spiritual mentor – more on that in a minute) suggested that I visit with one of his beloved seminary professors who happened to be teaching at nearby Columbia Seminary.

Ben welcomed me into his office and listened as I recounted my need to re-connect to church. He endured my critiques of every church I had tried and he nodded sagely as I described why my home church was so dear to me.

Then there was a long pause. I could almost see him thinking. “Why don’t you go back to [here he named a couple of the churches I had tried], but see what happens if you worship with a different goal. Try going to church not looking for what you might get, but curious about what you might give. I wonder if some of those churches might look different with that measuring stick.”

Kindly, gently, but also firmly and clearly, Ben helped me to see that I had turned my priorities upside down. I do not remember feeling judged or ‘corrected’ but I knew that I needed to re-shape my church search.
Ben further wondered out loud whether I might want to audit a night course he was teaching at Columbia. “It’s called Discerning God’s Will, and it starts tomorrow night. Here’s the book we’ll be using. Come join us!” I accepted that invitation and the class - well, that’s another blog for another day!

(Providentially, Ben was serving communion at chapel when I made a prospective student visit to Columbia a couple of years later. After he offered me the cup of salvation, he winked and said, “I wondered when I’d see you here!”)

Ben and I had no formal pastoral relationship, it wasn’t even a particularly close or deep relationship, but was a spiritual nurturer and guide to me. I smiled when Thompson included a quote from Ben Campbell Johnson in the margins of this week’s chapter in Soul Feast.

>Pause and consider: Who has been a spiritual nurturer and guide to you? Smile a prayer of thanksgiving for each person who has been a spiritual resource for you.
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Garden Star (a.k.a., Star Aloe)
We rely on all kinds of guides, consultants and mentors in our lives. Once in Scotland, I fished on the River Tay with church friends and their fishing club’s resident ghillie. The ghillie - or fishing guide - knew which holes were biting, he had patience to help me refine my wild casting technique and he could tell story after story from many many journeys along the river. Ghillies have depth experience at fishing coupled with a deep passion for sharing the fruits of their experience with others who want to take up the fishing life.

Spiritual directors (a.k.a. spiritual guides or mentors) do the kinds of thing ghillies do, but for one’s spiritual life. That’s what Ben Johnson was doing for me when I was finding my way back to church. I wonder how many times he had heard similar tales of woe and longing? Yet he listened and affirmed my story. He did not step in and start telling me which church I should join, rather he effectively said, “Try throwing your line in over there.” Most of all, it was clear that Ben was spiritually attuned from a lifetime’s spiritual journey; he was a knowledgeable guide for the Way I was trying to navigate.

Pause and consider> What kinds of spiritual questions or challenges might you want to take up with a knowledgeable resource and compassionate listener?
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Garden Starburst (a.k.a., Allium cristophii)
Apart from guidance that is directive, as when Ben helped me navigate a particular hurdle, spiritual guides can also be shining signposts (guiding 'stars' - hence my garden selections this week? insert cheesy grin here) that bring us to new awareness about the life of faith.

Bob Bardin – the pastor who preached when I was installed as Pastor at North Raleigh – is another spiritual guide who has shaped my life. He was the pastor at my home church from about the time I graduated from college and on through my first career. I wasn’t there week in and week out (I lived in a different city), but Bob’s engaging sermons and worship leadership fed my spirit every time I worshiped in Wilmington. Of course he guided me when he suggested that I visit with Ben Campbell Johnson, but was even more of an influence on me in the ways he taught me about grace in the way he lived his life.

I remember a phone conversation with Bob shortly after I landed at White Memorial. His parents were members there and visiting with them made me want to catch up – it had been so many years since our last encounter and his life and ministry had been, well, turned upside down. “Tell me what you’ve been doing.” I asked Bob. “Well, I’ve recognized that I’m an ‘extra grace required’ person and I’m serving in an ‘extra grace required’ church, so we are finding our way together.” One sentence spoke volumes to me. It was confession, assurance of pardon and invitation to discipleship all rolled into one!

Our paths crossed again several years later when I was serving as vacancy counselor for a church in Goldsboro. (You might say that vacancy counselors are spiritual directors for search committees as they journey through an interim period and toward new pastoral leadership!) Imagine my delight when I learned that that congregation was in conversation with one of the influencers of my own spiritual life, Bob Bardin. It was a privilege when I was able to be a part of Bob’s re-entry into ministry in the PC(USA) and an absolute joy when he was able to be a part of my new ministry at NRPC.

Spiritual directors can also be spiritually attuned friends who journey alongside you as you make your way in faith and life. Such a peer-to-peer relationship might stretch over a season or a lifetime. Or spiritual directors can be more formalized relationships that might feel like a cross between talking with a counselor and talking with a pastor. And, of course, many pastors are gifted to function as spiritual directors.

>Pause and Consider: Who has shaped your understanding of grace or helped you understand its depths?

One of the marginal quotes in Thompson’s chapter summarizes the role of a spiritual director: “So what does the spiritual director teach? In the simplest and also most profound terms, the spiritual director is simultaneously a learner and a teacher of discernment: What is happening? Where is God in this person’s life? What is the story? Where does this person’s story fit in our common Christian story?” (p. 116, quoting Margaret Guenther)

This chapter on spiritual direction is a reminder that we are not alone as we make the journey of faith. Many have traveled this way before, many are making this journey even as we are and many will surely come behind us. Thompson’s urge – and mine – is that you seek out a partner or mentor who can guide you and accompany you as you journey ever deeper into relationship with the risen and living One. (And if you’re looking for a formal spiritual director, I’ll be glad to help you in your search!)

Until next time,
Peace
Lisa

Thompson, Marjorie, Soul Feast: An Invitation to the Christian Spiritual Life (New Rev edition). Westminster John Knox Press, 2014

(Postscript: About the time that I was making my way back into active church life, Sue Monk Kidd was writing When the Heart Waits: Spiritual Direction for Life's Sacred Questions. I listened to that book on Audible over the weekend and can recommend it as an armchair form of spiritual direction offered by a consummate story teller. Would love to collect names of anyone who'd want to work through that book together? Lemmeknow!)
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Of Conscience and Consciousness: Self-Examination, Confession, and Awareness

5/5/2020

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In case you ever need to borrow it, I have a copy of the Oxford Companion to Philosophy on the shelf in my office. I bought it in seminary, when it felt like I needed to look up every third word in my philosophy of religion textbooks. You see, philosophy did not figure into my undergrad education.

I memorized formulas, learned techniques for solving systems of equations and studied the principles of ergonomics, but philosophy simply was not in the mix in undergrad. The disconnect between my college studies and seminary was a mild aggravation in most cases – 100-level courses seemed to presume we’d all just graduated from BA programs in religion and I can remember muttering under my breath “No. I did not study that in undergrad” on more than a few occasions. (Note to any aspiring seminarians: engineering might not be your best undergrad preparation. Just sayin’.)

By the time I landed in a philosophy of religion course, the mild aggravation from those early days had become a severe impediment and the Oxford Companion to Philosophy had become my bedside reading. Be still my heart!

All this came crashing back for me when I was reading Thompson’s chapter 7 this week. Socrates is attributed with having said that “the unexamined life is not worth living” and I’ve been wondering just what he meant as I’ve read what Thompson has to say about “self-examination, confession and awareness.”

Given my philosophical handicap (otherwise known as ignorance) I have no illusion that I know what Socrates meant when (if?) he said what he said about the unexamined life. That said, at face value it would seem that he preferred death over a life without philosophical conversation partners. Or, if his statement is meant as hyperbole, he’s at least suggesting that examining life (and/or one’s particular life) is a valuable and worthwhile part of human life. (It turns out Socrates’ argument raises all kinds of red flags about the privilege of nobility and the like, and I recognize those critiques as valid even today; my agenda here has a different focus.)

The church’s long history of valuing self-examination would seem to agree with Socrates at least in part: it’s spiritually valuable – even vital – to cultivate self-examination, confession and awareness.

>Pause and consider: On a scale from “I’m too busy to spend time reflecting on my life” to “I spend more time reflecting on life than any other aspect of living” where would you say you fall?
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On the windowsill this week: Deutzia. From my grandmother's garden, to my mother's to mine!
Somewhere in between “I’m too busy to spend time reflecting on my life” and “I spend more time reflecting on life than any other aspect of living” there is a point where we are constructively aware of our best and worst selves and able to live honestly and gratefully with our neighbors and Lord. Practicing that sweet spot is what Thompson urges us toward in chapter 7 of Soul Feast.
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Those words “honestly” and “gratefully” reflect two basic truths Thompson sets out as a crucial foundation for healthy self-examination. First, self-examination can become self-condemnation if it’s not done in light of gratitude for God’s unwavering love. Nothing we can learn about ourselves can separate us from that love. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Zero. Zilch-o. (No, not that, either!) Second, while self-improvement is fine, being human means being imperfect, so the goal is to be honest about who we are rather than to ‘fix’ who we are.
From that place of honesty and gratitude, self-examination can be a wholesale review of one’s life thus far (akin to Step Four of the Twelve Steps, where one makes a “fearless and searching” self-inventory) and/or it can be a regular evaluation of a shorter timeframe (like a day at a time).

Thompson suggests that the culmination of self-examination is prayerfully to confess one’s life to God. She writes that such a prayer might go something like this: “God, here are the patterns I see at work in my life. This is who I know myself to be and how I know myself to act. Yet you know more than I do. Bring me to greater clarity and understanding of myself. Let every true need in me be filled by you, every wound and effective response be healed and taken into your will. And thank you for these particular gifts and learnings that are part of my life journey. Strengthen them in me and help me share them with others.” (p. 101)

>Pause to consider: Recall one formative experience in your life. How have your thoughts and actions in that experience shaped you as an individual?

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I think I showed you Clivea buds one week; here's the full bloom.
When our son Ben was younger, we practiced a form of the examen for bedtime prayers. (I asked and he says it’s ok for me to share this with you!) I’ve used the same form for prayers when I’ve met with departing mission trip or conference groups, when I’ve visited with families following a death, when I’ve worked with staff groups in times of transition, even for prayers of the people at NRPC. Three questions shape this review: 1) What are you grateful for? 2) What causes you regret or worry? (With Ben, this question was, “What’s your do-over?”) 3) What are you hopeful for?

Of course, Ben’s elementary school answers were quite different than those spoken at grave sites. That is one of the beauties of this sort of practice – it translates to most any age or circumstance. The questions encourage a look back in gratitude and an honest look at what might need healing in the present, even as they foster a promising approach to the future. Taken together the three disarmingly simple sounding questions become a rather thorough and rigorous assessment.

>Pause to consider: Review the last 24 hours, identifying areas of gratitude, regret/worry and hope. Offer your observations to God with breath prayers of “thank you,” “forgive me/help me” or “show me.”

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Peeked into some birds' nests with Dick Christensen today. Grateful for the time with Dick; Sorry to have distressed Mrs. Robin; Hopeful that her brood will soon be pulling up worms.
I won't dare go so far as to join Socrates in saying that "the unexamined life is not worth living," but I will be so bold as to suggest that it's quite worthwhile to examine one's life. There's lots to be learned and, I expect, a richer, even freer experience of life on the other side of examining one's life either on one's own or with a trusted friend/guide/pastor. 

Indeed, the fruits of the Spirit at work are love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness, goodness and self-control. (I've been writing these onto stones. If you're by the church, look in the outdoor worship space and take what you need.) Thompson doesn’t quite catalog how all of those fruits of the Spirit can result from self-examination, but she does begin to make the connection. Perhaps a life review (or regular examen) can help us exercise self-control even as we recognize those things that gift us with joy. Surely our considering our own lives from a place of gratitude and honesty can make us more patient and compassionate (or gentle) with our neighbors, even as we become patient and compassionate with ourselves. Most of all, I expect peace with oneself and with the One who creates/redeems/sustains us might be the greatest gift to come out of such a process. Consider asking some questions of self-examination and perhaps you'll begin to hear some of these fruitful answers coming from the Spirit.Until next time,
Peace!
Lisa

Thompson, Marjorie, Soul Feast: An Invitation to the Christian Spiritual Life (New Rev edition). Westminster John Knox Press, 2014
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